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13:45 groomed as a young teen by a much older married man… did you miss that Kati? Wouldn’t that be what really messed this woman u;, what are the impacts and implications as to what she describes?

I've been thinking the inability to start might be depressxion, in myself. Because I always have ADHD, but I don't always have depression.

#5 I had the same with a friend of my dad when i was younger, my dad is a covert narcissist and the friend was the therapist. That made me afraid to open-up fully because of that, it was too close and the therapy did not go well either and pointing out i was unwilling to accept help. I was afraid it got misused against me (cause i was secretly knowing that something was wrong with my dad and his behaviour) - it only made my feelings about the situation worse, like my freeze response.

I could have easily written the first question here, and your initial answer is not hooking me, but I'm going to keep listening and see if it comes together. I have had severe depression before, and now my problem with starting things seems directly tied to anxiety about getting them correct, not about my depression anymore. I'll keep listening and see if things start to make sense.

My honest answer is going to be "I don't know." I've given some testimony talking about "intimations". I see a lot of intimations. If I chased after intimation I saw they would have to lock me in a cage.

how do you send in questions?

Waaay too long of a lead..almost turned thisxoff.

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You are great Love from Denmark❤

THANK YOU so much for this episode! Ive been really struggling with body memories. I didnt figure out that i had PTSD until i was 41 and i noticed that as i began to work on all the traumas that im aware of that my leg and my shoulder began to hurt with no injury. I also had tactile impressions, one on my arm that, and its so weird, but id touch my arm in that spot and I'd get goosebumps ONLY in that spot. Additionally, if I touch my lower left side of my abdomen it causes goosebumps on my left leg that experiences the pain. The fascinating thing is that I've recognized the beliefs associated with the pains, but i have no episodic/narrative memories to account for those beliefs. Its so difficult to work through because its like my mind shuts down when i try to access anything. Like, i get dizzy, i begin to have a fear response (cold hands, profuse stinky sweating, numb/tingly hands and feet, etc), my mind wanders or i fall asleep... its SO frustrating. But yeah, the body memories that I've experienced have either been the sensation of physical touch, or pain that kinda feels like my body froze in a position and the muscle won't un-flex. Its kinda the worst.

I learn so much here

I’m a clinical psychologist, and I’ve enjoyed listening to your podcasts. I’m always so curious to hear other mental health professionals share their perspectives. I have to say I appreciate your response to the person recording sessions. I agree it is importantly to let the therapist know, and I think in most cases it’s something that could be worked through. However, I would feel pretty violated if a client told me they had been recording our therapy sessions without my knowledge. It happened to one of my colleagues-a client was recording their sessions-and she felt extremely uncomfortable when she found out. Yes confidentiality belongs to the client but we’re human beings too, and we deserve the chance to consent or not to situations like being recorded. I also wouldn’t necessarily agree to the client recording sessions going forward. It would depend on my relationship with them and the purpose I felt recording sessions would serve for them.

I’m just an old man who is nothing but a burden to everyone.

I'm a pretty intelligent person, I can read people pretty well and some have said I'm a Empathic. Yay! the dude with an IQ of 140 up can feel everyone's else's shit, he can tell when the power is going to go out... but he thinks he is a shitbag of a person. He drinks his ass off and does self harm so he doesn't process what's in this, what I would call a long time ago a beautiful mind. Now I'm living day by day, not been able to complete most tasks without crying, everything is piling up on me. I feel like a complete loser and I get comments "stop drinking" and it does my head in as I know I need to reduce or stop it but that's not the issue. No one ever say's to me "why do you drink?". Sorry to vent, just needed to say something.

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As someone with BPD i ask mysellf this alot

😂 well I may have not mastered a new skill but I made 2 humans 😂

Today is my birthday I'm 55 in my family still don't believe me I am a crackhead I'm done with people in life

I haven't heard the podcast I am learning so much I need help

Im doing macro social work, but in all my classes, much of how you approach things is what I've learned. It is very refreshing to see a mental health professional, not make negative comments, or try to make folks feel as if it can all be solved with diet and exercise. Thank you, and thank you for exhibiting that "helper" perspective ❤

No. Therapists get annoyed when we ask them questions THEY can’t answer.

Kati, I just love your honesty and directness. You are so real, down to earth, and such a comfort. You have helped me discover my own flaws, and I appreciate that so much. I can’t tell you how important you have been in my life. You’ve helped me so much more than my actual therapist (I know that means it’s time to find a new therapist.) I am indebted to you for my happy new life and for being with me through my trauma recovery and the loss of my mom. You are amazing! Blessings to you and Sean!!

What’s the opposite of people pleasing? What’s hurting the people that don’t deserve it, and people you can’t help but don’t think you deserve?

Is possible ask to your therapist to talk at the same time that you are doing other thing? Such a handcraft? For being able to talk more fluent

I did not realize how rare crying was for therapist, my social worker when I was a kid started crying and left the room. I kinda freaked out and wanted to calm her down, I thought I hurt her.

My mind always tells me i was sexually assaulted by my grandad and i dont remember it, specially because i dont remember most of my childhood. I do believe i wasnt though, i think it is just me being paranoid, i guess i will never know

I was 31 when i remembered.

People usually forget things that didn't happen its normal

is this channel geared towards children and young kids with eating disorder?

My psychology is trying to make me belive that my father abused me sexualy but i know he didn't. She insists that my brain is still on surviving mode and therfore i can't admit to it. it feels like she could soon convince me to believe it.

Can high functions cptsd 73 yo female benefit more from TALK therapy AND EMDR … my new therapist doesn’t feel all events needed to know to start EMDR ? Thoughts please Thank you Karen in WPB FL

Why are you advising survivors to manage intimacy when the body says No! Why would your partner coach, coerce, pressure or need sexual intimacy when the survivor is still hurting? Please advise your listeners that sexual abuse trauma can't be healed by 'more' sexual intimacy! Survivors need ALOT of spac and time to heal without the selfish demands of a partner 😢

Where I can find intro song?

Song ❤

The person saying that they’ve tried everything and still feel depressed, what did they expect/want? If they’re so hopeless on themselves then why are you writing in? Do some people just want to stump therapist and want them to say, “no you’re right you should kill yourself”.

Oooh, so I've felt very out of control and depressed lately. I feel depressed that my business is stuck. Ive lost interest in fitness which is a big part of my job. I lack energy. And now I can't stop eating. I think it's due to my depression and me eating is out of control because I feel out of control. Inside I feel exhausted no matter how much sleep I get. I really need answers here. 💔

Has anyone of you currently had murderous thoughts.. or thoughts of harming someone while driving or at other times/situations in your life?!? If you haven't.. then either you're not being honest, or you have never been in back of a line of cyclists who are purposely driving in the middle of the road going 15mph in a 40mph zone.. or both. Be honest... Anyone and everyone is capable of both beautiful and heinous thoughts and deeds. Peace. 🙏🏼

I like here how you have a catchy hook line ..what is dissociation? As we all have our own way of interpreting what is dissociation. Everyone dissociatrs at one point or another but with prolonged dissociation i think and feel that its our way of dealing with trauma rhe onkybway we know how too... We detach and compartmentalize things/situations for our safety.

Wow. Thank you.

I would like to submit a question: Can you speak a little about splitting on yourself with BPD? I find that sometimes I'm triggered and I split on myself. Thinking I don't deserve love or kindness, that I'm a bad person and I don't deserve to live. It's such a dark place. It's even worse than splitting on others. I'd like to know more about this and what I can do in this spiral. I feel so implusive sometimes and it's so scary. I want to learn how to pull myself out

Is it possible to have 'small' dissociations each day. I had a bad evaluation at work. They say that I don't seem present at times. I know I do this at home. Didn't know I do this at work. So are these dissociations? I have PTSD and had dissociations in the past.

I think a lot of it has to do with a living wage. Inflation create crime and magical thinking

Hi Katie, I just started therapy of 2 sessions, and I feel like he hates me and judging me. Am I imagining it and maybe I should Not go back? I feel like I’m annoying 😢 and can’t talk about myself. Does he hate me? What should I do? I felt last time, that I’m waiting my time and money.

I have found my family had ways they talk me into believing it was me and not them causing me to feel neglected. I think some families cover up by making child feel like everything they know or understand is all in their own heads. That way family can protect themselves from any effects people believing they were a part of it.

Dating whit depression is impossible.

You should put chapters on your vids so we can easily skip over questions that don't apply to us. It's annoying to have to listen to questions we don't need and/or try to find the next question cuz it's difficult to do.

I feel something happened to me that I cannot remember. I was exposing myself in pre school and acting out. I also had a childhood friend who would make me play these “games” that were SA. We were the same age but I feel this happened before those games even started. I have body memories in the form of intense shame. As well as fear of bodily fluids. Of any kind. As a kid around 5 years old or so I peed all over the seat on accident. And I was hysterically crying and cleaning it up and felt so much embarrassment. I got towels and soap by myself to clean it. I didn’t tell my parents. I was so embarrassed. I am a mom and my kids don’t feel embarrassed at all missing the toilet. They in fact think it’s humorous. I still feel so much nausea and pure sickness from bodily fluids. I don’t know why… and it really bothers me. I also been SA multiple times as I got older. I blame myself for putting myself in those situations. I always felt desperate for male attention. As well as feeling too physically ugly for someone to love me. I am so confused by these emotions and my actions.

First of all (and I'm very pro equal Rights), stop listening to any media. Pay attention to the people in your life, locally. Think about the possibility of larger powers driving the beliefs of society. Voting gives a false sense of action and accountability. It doesn't change the US Uniparty. Be the change. Spread positivity. Be uncomfortable. Listen to the MULTIPLE unbiased views.... views that make you cringe. Can you accept ANY of their thoughts? Take politics out of it. Is anyone else feeling oppressed or silenced besides the voices you hear elevated currently? Listen and be who you want the world to be. N